Well, We're Done.

Thanks everyone. All this means so much to me, honestly. It it very tough and life is a b**** at times but thats how you live and learn. If i think positive, im hoping college, work, sports, homework and trying to hang with friends while maintaining a relationship is just to much right now since college just started last week, hopefully after a few months, things settle down, a routine becomes normal and finally she will realized what happened and hopefully we can try again. This could happen and it also could not. I will just pray to god and hope for the best while in the meantime i will just do me and have a fun time in college and with friends. thanks again everyone.

where do you go to college

Grand rapids community college to work on my Gen Eds for cheap. Transferring to Grand Valley State University next year.

I feel for you man. I've been with my current girlfriend for about 2 years, it's already hard to imagine losing her. Here for you man, and I hope it gets easier.

Hey man it's better to have loved then never at all .

Originally Posted by danprixgtp

grand rapids community college to work on my gen eds for cheap. Transferring to grand valley state university next year.

grcc ftw!!!

sorry to hear bud... Its rough. I was with my sons real mom for 6 years (left her due to the crazies....) then my most recent one of 5 years... Everything happens for reason though. Keep your head up dude

Just think, with all that money you can fix your exhaust tips.

Www.plentyoffish.com

My ex broke up w/ me and threw away a year and a half because I helped my best friend from madison, wi with going and buying a car in chicago. My life has been great so far and the new found vaginas definitely help. After a while you'll be fine.

So where are those photos? Its been a day! Too soon...??? j/k j/k


Seriously bro, been there, hurt like that. Tried the whole "play it cool" and we talked off and on like friends, had a bunch of mutual friends and constantly ran into each other in attempts to move on we just made each other jealous and hurt each other more and more. I had to actually move away for a summer, went and spent a summer working with my father about 3 hours away. Step sis took me out, we hit the clubs, she introduced me to friends and I had some fun. Ex kept trying to bring be back, I finally had to just turn off the phone and ignore her. It took 3 months of complete no contact to get to where I could actually see myself without her and by the time I came back I was ready to move on and she had a new BF. We since can talk and what-not, we both moved on and I feel its for the better, she married and the past 5 years I have been with the girl I will probably marry and be stuck with but life is like that sometimes. What she and I had back then was amazing and the experience we shared I wouldn't trade for anything, but I think of it like prep work, without her I wouldn't be the person I am today and would have overlooked the girl I wound up with.

Basically, let her go, give it time. If she tries to contact you to hang out, try it if you want, but don't go chasing her. As you said, if it is meant to be you will get back together, but some time apart might just be what you both need to really REALLY appreciate what you had. Find a good bottle, keep yourself around good friends and above all, don't stress about it. You will find playing the field can be alot of fun too. Don't lose the chance to have fun, you only live once!

Sheff you seem to have good advice and I appreciate the help. Just today she tweeted "life is great when you don't have to worry about sh**" which made me upset thinking she had to constantly worry about me and what we had wasn't special. I want to ask her why she said that, should I or no? And also when has a good amount of time passed, where I can strike up a conversation again? See how things are going. We haven't talked since Sunday night when the break up took place.

plentyoffish.com is the ****. just saying. also, now you can come to GP meets and stay at them without worries just a thought! cheer up Dan. If you want to chill sometimes this week, hit me up. I have nothing going on until later at night.

Sorry to hear about that dan, you seem liked a good guy, didnt deserve any crap, But like said, shiit happens for a reason.

next time im down in 'merica town we will have to grab a brew

Originally Posted by DanPrixGTP

Sheff you seem to have good advice and I appreciate the help. Just today she tweeted "life is great when you don't have to worry about sh**" which made me upset thinking she had to constantly worry about me and what we had wasn't special. I want to ask her why she said that, should I or no? And also when has a good amount of time passed, where I can strike up a conversation again? See how things are going. We haven't talked since Sunday night when the break up took place.

Sometimes my words exceed my experience, but I have those "I remember that time" moments from time to time and can really lay down some wisdom. In regard to her tweet, I would ignore it. You have no idea what it was in reference to, and it could be something as simple as a day to day task being complete and she's ready to relax. You stress and you read it in relation to how you feel and take it the wrong way and question it and it could push her away a bit more thinking you are going crazy. Truthfully, I would completely ignore anything she does that does NOT DIRECTLY APPLY TO YOU. Meaning unless she texts your phone, "what do you have planned for the weekend?" ignore her. If she is on facebook and posts pictures or something you can like it and be the friend, maybe make a BASIC, friendly comment if you feel the need, but don't bring up history or relationship at all.

If it was me, I would unfollow her, remove her from facebook, and change her contact name in your phone. That way if she notices and wants to know why, you can have the reason that you don't want to be constantly reminded of her. But you may not want to go that extreme just yet. That effect could be played back into your favor with a simple rebuttle like "I can't be friends with you, feelings are just too strong for the friendzone status" or something cheesy like that, remember cheesy works.

Stay friends, stay outside and open, don't push yourself back to her but don't just become a hermit, sitting at home, writing dark poetry, stalking her facebook and cutting yourself :P

Originally Posted by BoostenGTP

plentyoffish.com is the ****. just saying. also, now you can come to GP meets and stay at them without worries just a thought! cheer up Dan. If you want to chill sometimes this week, hit me up. I have nothing going on until later at night.

I am actually going to take you up on this offer. I havent seen you in awhile and wouldnt mind catching up. Plus i wanna see the new Stang in your position. Maybe if a car meet is going on we can hit that up together. I need to keep myself busy. I work until 4:30 everyday besides friday, im done at 4. So any day after that time will work for me.

Originally Posted by Mad Monkey

Sorry to hear about that dan, you seem liked a good guy, didnt deserve any crap, But like said, shiit happens for a reason.

next time im down in 'merica town we will have to grab a brew

Thanks man.

And one brew? I need like 39834328957283 at the moment.

Originally Posted by TLSheff

Sometimes my words exceed my experience, but I have those "I remember that time" moments from time to time and can really lay down some wisdom. In regard to her tweet, I would ignore it. You have no idea what it was in reference to, and it could be something as simple as a day to day task being complete and she's ready to relax. You stress and you read it in relation to how you feel and take it the wrong way and question it and it could push her away a bit more thinking you are going crazy. Truthfully, I would completely ignore anything she does that does NOT DIRECTLY APPLY TO YOU. Meaning unless she texts your phone, "what do you have planned for the weekend?" ignore her. If she is on facebook and posts pictures or something you can like it and be the friend, maybe make a BASIC, friendly comment if you feel the need, but don't bring up history or relationship at all.

If it was me, I would unfollow her, remove her from facebook, and change her contact name in your phone. That way if she notices and wants to know why, you can have the reason that you don't want to be constantly reminded of her. But you may not want to go that extreme just yet. That effect could be played back into your favor with a simple rebuttle like "I can't be friends with you, feelings are just too strong for the friendzone status" or something cheesy like that, remember cheesy works.

Stay friends, stay outside and open, don't push yourself back to her but don't just become a hermit, sitting at home, writing dark poetry, stalking her facebook and cutting yourself :P

Everytime my phone goes off, i hope its her. I want to talk to her so bad, but i know its not right. I dont want to start talking to her to soon because, well she needs her space and i dont want to push her further away but i also dont want to NOT talk to her at all. I just need to figure out when enough time has passed before i can start a friendly conversation once again. I was thinking around 2ish weeks. I dont know. Ive made her fall in love with me once, and stay with it for 5 years, obviously she likes something that i have to offer, and if i did it once, i can do it again. Just cant rush into it. Timing is key.

That feel bro. My girlfriend and I just had our 6 year anniversary. If we broke up I don't think I'd be able to get back into a relationship for a long time. When you're together that long you get used to each other and moving on would be unbelievably hard. It sounds like you did what was in both your best interests. Keep your head up.

I leave for work every day at 7:30 so anytime before that lol.

I would at least wait until 2 weeks, much as you may not like it a month might not be a bad idea. Give her some time to really find her feelings, if she hates the idea of not talking to you then she will contact you within that point. Or if she is pushing to not talk either and gets really excited to talk to you it may spark up a really good conversation and lead on. Between the distance that time frame will allow for alot to happen to discuss so a full month may be a better idea, if you can handle it.

I know long distance relationships don't work. Been there, failed at that. But how much of a distance is between you 2? Did you guys not have plans for long term like marriage? 5 years and I plan to keep my GF for life, I wouldn't put the time if I didn't really love her and want to be with her like that. What is keeping you and her from a transfer to be closer to each other to make it work?
You don't have to answer any of these, just think on them.

I know a while back Amber had plans to go to OSU for her nursing school, its about a 2 hr drive each way to get there and I told her I would uproot us both to move if that was her plan. I would get a job and a house up there to make it easier on her because I refuse to break up and be apart like that. Too long of a drive each weekend for her to come back and me keep my normal 8-5, I could find a replacement up in the city or around there.

Again, no answer needed, just thinking on this and thought you may think that over, if you just got complacent on the relationship; being with her was better than being single or out looking for something better, then you may just let her go. But if you really REALLY loved her, why not push for her school so you can be closer or do something?

Ok, I guess I will have to be the negative guy here.... DON'T contact her at all. It will only make it harder on you. Plus she seems to be fine. Do yourself a favor, do ANYTHING but contact her. If it is important to her SHE will get in contact with you. Don't put yourself out there like that. Best if you just cut ties and move on.. IF and that's a HUGE IF it was meant to be, it will work out regardless.

Originally Posted by TLSheff

I would at least wait until 2 weeks, much as you may not like it a month might not be a bad idea. Give her some time to really find her feelings, if she hates the idea of not talking to you then she will contact you within that point. Or if she is pushing to not talk either and gets really excited to talk to you it may spark up a really good conversation and lead on. Between the distance that time frame will allow for alot to happen to discuss so a full month may be a better idea, if you can handle it.

I know long distance relationships don't work. Been there, failed at that. But how much of a distance is between you 2? Did you guys not have plans for long term like marriage? 5 years and I plan to keep my GF for life, I wouldn't put the time if I didn't really love her and want to be with her like that. What is keeping you and her from a transfer to be closer to each other to make it work?
You don't have to answer any of these, just think on them.

I know a while back Amber had plans to go to OSU for her nursing school, its about a 2 hr drive each way to get there and I told her I would uproot us both to move if that was her plan. I would get a job and a house up there to make it easier on her because I refuse to break up and be apart like that. Too long of a drive each weekend for her to come back and me keep my normal 8-5, I could find a replacement up in the city or around there.

Again, no answer needed, just thinking on this and thought you may think that over, if you just got complacent on the relationship; being with her was better than being single or out looking for something better, then you may just let her go. But if you really REALLY loved her, why not push for her school so you can be closer or do something?

We both go to different colleges, i go to the Community College and she goes to Aquinis College. As of right now i live at home and she lives at her dorm because she plays volleyball there and thats the easier way to go. Our two colleges are about only a 10 minute drive from one another but we just dont have time to see each other. She has class from 9-2pm then practice 3-6pm and then another class 6-9pm with games every wednesday and a tournament in another state every other weekend. I go to school 7:45am - 11:15am everyday then work from noon to 5, and then workout from 7 - 9. We both are extremely busy at the moment and all this while trying to maintain a relationship is tough, especially since this is our first year of college and we didnt know what to expect. Distance isnt really the problem, its just being busy. Hopefully after time has passed and a routine has gone into affect and when volleyball is done in 2 months, we can make things work again. the night we broke up she told me, "Dan, im just to overwhelmed right now and cant maintain a relationship with everything i have going on right now, i cant give you 100% at the moment, with that being said, its best if i just become single BUT when volleyball season is done, possibly we can make things work again, but now for now im just to overwhelmed. i Responded, "just because something is hard dont give up on it." but still, being busy is whats killing us and see her point of view and its just best to respect her decision.

Originally Posted by Iceman6669

Ok, I guess I will have to be the negative guy here.... DON'T contact her at all. It will only make it harder on you. Plus she seems to be fine. Do yourself a favor, do ANYTHING but contact her. If it is important to her SHE will get in contact with you. Don't put yourself out there like that. Best if you just cut ties and move on.. IF and that's a HUGE IF it was meant to be, it will work out regardless.

Yes i believe if it was meant to be, we will get back together. But i also feel as if that is a tad false too. If i just crawl up into a corner and do nothing and not make an effort, nothing will come from it. But after time has passed and i TRY to start talking to her to get things goingh, then if she wants to be with me she will but if it doesnt work and she doesnt want me back after i have tried, then thats when i stop, thats how i know we arent meant to be together anymore.